CAN'T CHOOSE BETWEEN AN ELOPEMENT OR A BIG WEDDING ? HERE'S 3 USEFUL TIPS!
Updated: Jun 1
So, you've found your other half, but you're wondering what to answer to your friends and family when they ask about your big day. The truth is : you don’t know.
You first need to make up your mind about the second big question, after « will you marry me » : « how will you marry me ? » !
Here's some tips to help you decide what kind of special day is the best way for you to say « I do ».
1. Anticipation :
A big wedding requires more planning, with a schedule starting usually 12 months before your D-Day, if not more. Especially considering a beautiful venue, and a hundred of other things to think about.
Going with an elopement makes things a bit easier : you can decide to set your date in a few weeks from now, with a romantic escape. It’s an impulsive, surprising type of organisation here !
2. Friends And Family :
This is a real question to consider, thinking about your guest list.
If you feel like you could do this with your BFF, flying to your ceremony with a small party with no questions asked, it sounds like an elopement is the right thing for you.
However, if you can’t see yourself walking down the aisle without all your loved ones, including your great great cousins that you haven’t seen in years, you know where your heart is.
Note : an elopement is sometimes a good way to deal with family issues.
If you fear some drama, running away is a good option. After all, your parents have not been able to be in the same room without yelling at each other since their divorce in 1997. Don’t forget this is your special day : nobody is allowed to rain on your parade, including Mom and Dad, and instead of facing unnecessary issues, well, you’d rather have an intimate bubble of pure bliss.
And you’ll still get to celebrate with your parents and everybody else when you get back to reality, but without the pressure.
3. Budget :
Last but not least, you’ll have to consider the cost of a wedding.
The average budget for a wedding is about 30 000 euros, most of it being spent on the venue and catering.
An elopement could cost a way less than a tenth of that amount.
Facing this truth, you’ll know at least if you want to start a saving plan in order to afford your dream wedding, or if your actual saving accounts will do.
On the other side, you may receive financial support from your family once you announce your engagement. In this case, they’ll expect for sure to be a part of your big day. Make sure they know where you stand about your choices of celebration.
Still deciding about your wedding or elopement in Paris or anywhere in France? Drop me your questions here, I'll get back to you soon!
Here's also a link to my show in English about Weddings in France, if you'd like to hear it!